Social and Connection Log

Who this is for

A record of the people in your weeks. Each line holds the date, who it was, whether you met, called or messaged, what you did, how it felt in your words and anything you said you would do next — so that the friend you keep meaning to ring has a date beside their name.

Anyone who has noticed that months pass without seeing the people they like, people new to a town, people working from home, carers and anyone recovering from a spell when seeing people was hard — and anyone who simply wants to remember a good evening.

What this helps you track

• Who you saw or spoke to, and when
• Whether it was in person, a call or a message
• What you did and how it felt, in your own words
• Follow-ups you offered — a call back, a visit, a favour — with somewhere to tick them
• The names that have not appeared for a while, which is the useful part

How to use it

1. Write your name and the period the sheet covers at the top.
2. Add a row after seeing or speaking to someone — the date, who, and how it happened.
3. Say what you did in a few words, and how it felt in your own; a good hour and a draining one are both worth recording.
4. Write any follow-up you offered or want to make in the last column, and tick it when it is done.
5. Every so often, read down the who column and notice who is missing from it. What you do with that is yours.
6. Print a fresh sheet each month, or fill it in on screen and save it in your own browser.

Formats

• Printable PDF (A4 and US Letter)
• Fillable PDF with form fields
• Fill in online, saved in your browser

The printable is laid out inside a box that fits both A4 and US Letter, so the two files are identical and neither one is scaled. The fillable PDF has real form fields. The online version keeps what you enter in your own browser and builds the completed PDF on your device.

How to print

Download the A4 or US Letter file to match the paper in your printer, open it in a PDF reader and print at 100% — not "fit to page", which shrinks the writing space. Both files leave a 14 mm margin, which clears the unprintable edge on home printers. To print the online version with your entries in it, use the Print this sheet button, which prints only the sheet and none of the page around it. More on printing.

Questions

Does the sheet say how often I should see people?

No. It has no target, no count of friends and no idea of what a good week of company looks like. It records who you saw and leaves the rest to you.

Do messages count?

If you want them to. The how column has a message option, and some people log only the longer exchanges. Decide once and be consistent so the sheet reads the same way throughout.

What goes in how it felt?

Whatever is true, in your words. Warm, awkward, easy, tiring, better than expected. There is no scale, and the point is to notice, not to score.

Is this only for friends?

No — family, neighbours, colleagues you like, a regular at the shop. Anyone whose company is part of your week belongs on it.

What if the page shows me something I do not like?

A long gap or a line of draining entries is worth noticing, and worth talking to someone about if it worries you. The sheet has nothing to say about it beyond having recorded it.